The good host’s guide to gifting

Hey, we all know that planning a dinner party takes its share of planning. Even if you want to make it seem effortless, a great host either spends a good few hours preparing, or he/she has put in the work for years to get the ritual of having people over just right. Whatever the case may be, if you were brought up right, you’ll know that if someone’s having you over, the least you can do is give your host a nice gesture for having you. So, I’ve come up with a few tips on what exactly to give your hosts so you don’t end up bringing dessert like everyone else.

Dig a little into the likes of your host

This doesn’t mean you have to go all stalker on whoever’s having you over, but try to gift something that will actually make your host smile. Let’s say he’s into golf, you might think of something that hits the theme and can lighten up the mood- maybe a martini shaker in the form of golf clubs- and extra points for getting the martinis going. 

Don’t go for something overly expensive

I think that being too generous can result in your host being uncomfortable. A nice gesture is encouraged-too much translates into you trying too hard. 

Flowers are ALWAYS a good idea

Flowers are just the right amount of cliché, and even if your host is a man, he’ll be sure to appreciate them. You don’t have to gift a flower arrangement per se(but extra points if you do!), because even flowers from the supermarket hit the right notes, but be sure to check that they’re fresh. The only thing worse than arriving empty handed, is bringing dead-ish flowers. 

If you’re going for something to be enjoyed at during the dinner party, do think of everyone involved

It doesn’t take more than a call to your host to check how many people are coming, or if there’ll be kids involved. So, for example if you offered to bring over some wine, and there are 6 people coming to a dinner party, please don’t bring just one bottle. If you're on a budget, it’s better if you bring your host something more simple that’s not to be taken by everyone during the event, but rather something that he/she can enjoy afterwards. 

Go for something fun

I once was invited to a dinner where one of the other guests brought over fortune cookies with hilarious fortune messages, and everyone had a big laugh. Gifts, like these, which break the ice or put a twist on the traditional formats of interaction during a dinner party are great, just make sure that the occasion calls for it and is appropriate for the event.